How To Deal With An Unplanned Pregnancy

When faced with an unplanned pregnancy, there is no “easy way out.” No matter what you choose to do, it will be difficult. Pregnancy can be overwhelming, both physically and emotionally, especially when the pregnancy wasn’t planned. How do you deal with all of the emotions you feel and decisions you’ll make? Here are 4 tips from someone who’s been there.

  1. Don’t be ashamed

There is nothing wrong with you or your child just because this pregnancy wasn’t planned. People will shame you; they will gossip and speculate. The details are no one’s business but your own. This child is a life and has just as much right to be celebrated as any other baby. It’s okay to be excited, even if you’re scared. Anyone who tries to tell you otherwise is simply ignorant.

  1. Find your support system

When faced with an unplanned pregnancy, you learn who your true friends are. It’s possible that many people you used to be close to suddenly aren’t around anymore. You deserve better than that. Find people who will be there for you through thick and thin, no matter what you decide to do. Whether it be family, friends, or a support group, you need to have a shoulder to cry on and someone to talk to through this uncertain time.

     3. Take care of yourself

Pregnancy is taxing on your body and your mind. You will be sick, swollen, and tired. The stress of your pregnancy being unplanned can make things even more taxing. Don’t forget to take care of yourself. Eat well, get enough sleep, and exercise. Not only is this good for you and the baby, it will also help you manage your stress. You will be able to think more clearly.

  1. Consider your options

When faced with an unplanned pregnancy, you have three options: parenting, adoption, or abortion. There is no one size fits all solution. Weigh the pros and cons and decide what is best for you and your child. Consider what your life would look like five, ten, and fifteen years down the road with each of these options. Try to be as objective as possible. Reach out to your support system to help you work through the process of making a decision. However, in the end, it’s up to you. You are the only one who can know what is truly best for you and your child. 

No matter what you decide, facing an unplanned pregnancy is hard, and it’s easy to feel defeated. Don’t give up. Remember that you are strong. You are smart. You are capable. You will make the best choice possible for you and your child. No matter what that is, you can do it. Just keep going.

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